Why do people say "it will get easier with time"?

‎Why do we tell people it will get easier with time?
This was the wall post of a friend of mine this morning on Facebook. I was surprised and a bit dismayed by the variety of responses she has received, from “It doesn’t! They just want you to feel better! Life is a challenge!!!” to “Maybe they don’t know what else to say” to “Because it does! But u have to be willing to let it!”

Here is my response:

“It” will get easier.

How that happens depends on the “it” and the source of your HOPE. Both of those depend on your basic assumptions about life, about your circumstances, about “it”, about the source of your hope.

Your assumptions shape your behavior, which drives the results you get. Your basic assumptions about “it” and future possibilities will determine how you respond.

It CAN get easier, but “it” depends on you.

Without a source of hope, there is no hope; without hope, there are no new possibilities; without new possibilities, there is no passion; without passion, you’ll take no meaningful action; without meaningful action, you miss out on new results. Without new results, it doesn’t get easier.

Do you see any connections between your initial assumptions and the challenges you now face?

  • How might you shift your thinking from old assumptions toward new ones? What happens when you do?
  • What changed attitudes and behaviors might these new behaviors drive?
  • Hope fuels and rekindles our passion to embrace challenges. Then what drives hope?
  • What drives hope is to know that we have New Possibilities.

To create new possibilities, we must challenge our assumptions. Challenging our assumptions sometimes means choosing our attitudes.

Believe in doing something better than you have ever done before! Expect it to get easier.

Put your hope in Christ and the promises of God.

About pdncoach

A Go-Giver business coach working with leaders whose success depends on the performance and productivity of others. I coach individual leaders and their teams... in small to mid-size businesses, ministries and non-profits... to accelerate their results and achieve dreams by getting past the difficult, strategic challenges of their current realities.
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