Here is an issue direct from a coaching client:
“I often find myself overcommitted. What can I do differently?”
“Overcommitted” is an interesting term I hear used quite often from peers, clients and colleagues. I obviously feel their pain. But use of this term belies some underlying assumptions, which may be a problem. Let’s break it down:
The verb “commit” means “to obligate or pledge oneself”, so if I say I am “overcommitted”, I may have pledged my time and energy too broadly. Most likely, you are involved in a number of activities and roles at work or at school, in the community and at home. You probably struggle “finding the time” and energy to keep your obligations. But are you really committed?
Reconsider the concept of commitment. The burdonsome feeling of having too many obligations is common, but are you really over-committed or are you under-committed? Over-commitment is an oxymoron. Too many obligations creates a watering-down effect, so none of them receive your true commitment. Does “obligation” equal “commitment”?
How might your problem look differently if you considered that you may really be under-committed to your real priorities? What new solutions does this shift in thinking generate? What are your real priorities? How do you know?
“Over-committed” people prioritize their schedules. The committed person schedules his or her priorities. Consider this critical distinction before you make promises in the future.
If you are struggling with over-commitment, time management, or feel overwhelmed with obligations, coaching can help. Comment on this article or call me anytime to talk it over.