Magic Carpet Ride Redux – Part 2

In Part 1, I discussed how we tend to take a “wait-and -see” approach to tough times, allowing ourselves to victims of circumstance. Yet the best way to get past the challenges we face is to “step into the deep water.” We tend to wait for God to make His move, when in all likelihood He is waiting for us to just get our feet wet.


What are you trying to get to the other side of?
I have become a huge fan of author and emergent church leader Mark Batterson. His books “Wild Goose Chase” and “In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day” continue to inspire me and inform me, in both my life of faith but also my business and life as a professional. “In a Pit with a Lion…” Batterson references a quote from famous psychiatrist Carl Jung saying this about how he helped people:

“Most people came to me with an insurmountable problem. However, what happened was through our work together they discovered something more important than the problem and the problem lost its power and went away.”

I find that amazing. I also find it to be true. My coaching clients tend to “solve” their own problems when I help them refocus their attention to intention. That’s why I tell them, “No one knows your circumstances better than you. Know one knows the right answers better than you. My role is to help you with the right questions.” Sometimes the most valuable service I provide is that I help you recognize how the outcome of your life is determined by your outlook on life. Batterson refraims the issue in this way:

“the circumstances you complain about become chains that imprison you. And worship is the way out.”

And worship is the way out… How does that work?
As Christians, don’t we say that we follow Christ and that he is in charge of the direction of our lives? Sure, but when we don’t like the direction He seems to be directing us, we ask God to change our circumstances, right? Yet, very often, God is behind the very circumstances we find undesirable. “Worshiping our way out” is shifting our focus from what’s wrong with our circumstances to what’s right with God. Batterson likens it to hitting the refresh key on your computer. “It recalibrates your spirit. It renews your mind.”

It’s not easy praising God when nothing seems to be going right, I know. I tend to pray that He “make things right” when He already has made things right for what He has planned for me. He’s helping me with the right questions. But things sure don’t seem right. I want to measure God’s love by my current circumstances. That leads me to doubt God in bad times, even to doubt God’s existence, let alone His everlasting love.

What if your praise for God wasn’t so circumstantial? What if you mixed things up a bit, instead of thanking God for the circumstances you appreciate and begging Him to correct those you cannot appreciate, what if you praised Him throughout – knowing that He IS in charge of your direction?

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Magic Carpet Ride Redux – Part 1

[I shared a post from June 16, 2009, with someone recently who professed it had a profound affect on them. I was moved to share the article again here, this time slightly altered and in a series of shorter posts.  So follow along with me on a Magic Carpet Ride – once again or for the very first time.]


What if the rug that has been pulled out from under you was really a magic carpet ride?

The economy – it has become such a major issue that we personify it by calling it “The Economy” (kind of like “The W” or “The Donald”). People are suffering. We are suffering. My business has been down, slower than any historical mark other than my first six months of start-up. Too many potential customers want to “wait and see” what happens next. I kid you not, they are waiting to see if their circumstances change before they make many more decisions. Scary but true; this is true victim thinking.

People who take the “wait and see” approach during tough times want God to make the first move. That’s not what he taught the people of Israel when they needed to get to the other side of the Jordon River.

Joshua 3:12-13 (New International Version)

12 Now then, choose twelve men from the tribes of Israel, one from each tribe. 13 And as soon as the priests who carry the ark of the LORD – the Lord of all the earth – set foot in the Jordan, its waters flowing downstream will be cut off and stand up in a heap.”

I’m sure the people would rather have said, “God, how about you stop the waters first, THEN we’ll step into the river.” But God wants us to demonstrate our faithfulness, and He will deliver us.

At times, I feel trapped at the river’s edge. I have felt like the rug has been pulled out from under me. I have lost my footing, my bearings, my balance, my focus, my nerve…let’s face it, I have “lost it”. I have wanted to escape my current circumstances, so I pray that God will deliver me. I want Him to make his move. God almost always wants me to “take the first step into the Jordan”.

I know I am not alone. Maybe you have felt the same way for reasons unrelated or related to the economy. All of us lose our way from time to time. We risk joining those who merely wait for their circumstances to change. This “wait and see” attitude was especially troubling for me, since I am in the business of helping people get to the other side of whatever challenges they face.

This “wait and see” attitude is especially troubling for you, too.  It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do, it’s time to “step into the Jordan.” Maybe then, and only then, will the waters part and give you safe passage.

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A New Year of Integrity

Nike tells us to “Just Do It.”  Ah, if it were just so easy!

Here we are, just five days into the new year 2011 and the annual hullabaloo about “resolutions” is in full gear.  Do you make resolutions?  Do you keep them? Why? Why not?

To say “I never make resolutions” is ridiculous unless you never resolve to do anything.  Of course, our problems with making resolutions are really about keeping them.  I am reminded of the children’s riddle of five frogs sitting on a log.

Five frogs are sitting on a log.

Four decide to jump off.  

How many are left?  

[We don’t know how many are left. There could be five, or three…or one. Just because one decides or resolves to do something doesn’t mean one does it!]
I was particularly dismayed this week when a respected civic leader was quoted in a local business journal as saying, “I don’t make resolutions because I’m afraid of failure.”

Indeed, fear of failure will weaken one’s resolve to decide a course of action, and fear of the unknown often keeps one from action.  (Believe me on this one; I’m an expert with extensive experience!)

Perhaps even more basic to the average person’s reluctance to make, or tendency to keep, resolutions is this: we don’t want to appear dishonest. Honesty is necessary to have integrity, after all.

Ask for a list of “leadership traits and characteristics” of anyone and, inevitably, that list will include the ironically murky ideal of “Integrity”.  “Good decision-making” also frequently appears. “Resolve to take action” – not so much.  Yet action is the critical link between our decisions and integrity.  Leadership requires resolves, action…and the ability to anticipate and overcome obstacles.

Integrity noun
Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
The state of being unimpaired; soundness.
The quality or condition of being whole or undivided; completeness.

When I think of Integrity, I also think of Captain Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger, who successfully piloted his passenger jet into the icy Hudson River, saving all lives on board, two years ago this month.  In my own words:

“Instinct didn’t take over for Sullenberger as he steered his jet toward those icy Hudson waters, practice kicked in – the practice of integrity. This is a man who decided earlier in life that safety and human lives were important enough to him that he would dedicate himself to preserving those ends. He trained, he studied, he learned day after day, year after year with those ends in mind. What once began as a pilot’s tenuous first flight, over the course of 40 years of practice became unconscious competence – the right attitudes, habits, decisions, actions and demeanor to save lives in a crisis.”

Completeness.  When you resolve to begin something, are you prepared to complete it?  Are you willing to practice repetitively in the early stages so that you will succeed in the end?

What is important enough to you that you resolve to do it, achieve it, dedicate yourself to its resolution?

Get clear on your resolutions first. Turn them into goals. Are you being specific? Is your goal measurable? Is it something that you can act upon? Is it a realistically high goal?  Have you a target date in mind?

There will be birds and icy waters. 
No matter what you decide to do, there will be obstacles.  THERE WILL BE OBSTACLES. At least if you have a clearly defined goal, you only will be focusing on the obstacles to that goal and not to other possible interpretations of a vague resolution!  You can develop solutions to obstacles. You can be prepared for obstacles, just as Sully Sullenberger was.

And that, my friends, is the real secret to keeping resolutions. That, my friends, is the path to Integrity, which you will find only at The Intersection of Purpose and Now.

Aspire to have integrity: practice discerning what is right, saying that you will do right, how and why you will do right, and doing so whether or not someone else is paying attention.

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