One Thing I Do

The one thing I do is to help people with dreams become leaders with vision.  That’s my general life purpose and certainly a specific purpose of my coaching business. Chet Cromer is one of the people I am now coaching and he has turned his experience of a Person-Being-Coached into an authentic, insightful and refreshingly honest blog called One Thing I Do.  Chet also owns a successful IT consulting firm in south-central Indiana – check him out.

Check out Chet’s blog at One Thing I Do.  Here is a brief excerpt to get you started:

“Don’t go where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” 

This Ralph Waldo Emerson quote has been a favorite of mine for many years. Up until now, though, I always pictured it as me venturing forth into some great unknown, some grand mission outside of my little “realm.” It wasn’t until the past month that I’ve begun to see that the place where there is no path is actually many parts of my own life. I am in a time of transition right now, with work, with family, and above all else, in my personal life. I have entered into a coaching relationship with a brother named Mark Sturgell, and for the past month, have been learning that the dreams in the back of my head MATTER, that goals I might want to achieve CAN BE DONE, and that it’s not MAGIC. It is requiring a lot of hard work, but I’m already seeing the benefits in my confidence in who I am, who I was made to be, and what I was made to do.

One thing I’ve found over the years, and it’s rung true this past month, is that writing things down really crystallizes them for me. So I’m thinking of using my blog here to share, mainly with myself, some of the things I’m learning. Writing them down with a pen on a sheet of paper gets me started, but putting those thoughts into complete sentances, clean tables, and even before the public eye pushes me a little bit more.”

Join Chet Cromer at The Intersection of Purpose and Now.

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"Its better to be a slow buddy, than to be no buddy at all." ~Some Buddy

Michael Bolton | Lean On Me

  • What kind of a friend are you?
  • Are you a go-getter or a go-giver?
  • Will you recognize your Intersection of Purpose and Now in the friend who needs a nudge?

“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.” ~author unknown

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Why do people say "it will get easier with time"?

‎Why do we tell people it will get easier with time?
This was the wall post of a friend of mine this morning on Facebook. I was surprised and a bit dismayed by the variety of responses she has received, from “It doesn’t! They just want you to feel better! Life is a challenge!!!” to “Maybe they don’t know what else to say” to “Because it does! But u have to be willing to let it!”

Here is my response:

“It” will get easier.

How that happens depends on the “it” and the source of your HOPE. Both of those depend on your basic assumptions about life, about your circumstances, about “it”, about the source of your hope.

Your assumptions shape your behavior, which drives the results you get. Your basic assumptions about “it” and future possibilities will determine how you respond.

It CAN get easier, but “it” depends on you.

Without a source of hope, there is no hope; without hope, there are no new possibilities; without new possibilities, there is no passion; without passion, you’ll take no meaningful action; without meaningful action, you miss out on new results. Without new results, it doesn’t get easier.

Do you see any connections between your initial assumptions and the challenges you now face?

  • How might you shift your thinking from old assumptions toward new ones? What happens when you do?
  • What changed attitudes and behaviors might these new behaviors drive?
  • Hope fuels and rekindles our passion to embrace challenges. Then what drives hope?
  • What drives hope is to know that we have New Possibilities.

To create new possibilities, we must challenge our assumptions. Challenging our assumptions sometimes means choosing our attitudes.

Believe in doing something better than you have ever done before! Expect it to get easier.

Put your hope in Christ and the promises of God.

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