Burnout

Posted on May 15, 2013 by pdncoach

I love it when my readers suggest topics for The Intersection of Purpose and Now. I have a reader from the Radiological Society of North America to thank for suggesting the subject of “Burnout”.

I am doing exactly what I want to be doing with my life right now. Are you? I have the life I want, and I want my clients to be able to say just that as well.  But let’s face it, anyone can face “burnout” at some point in a career.

What is burnout, generally?  If every day is a “bad day”; if you are often or always tired; if tasks at work or home seem like a waste of time; if you find most of the tasks you perform daily to be boring or monotonous; if you feel like nothing you do is appreciated or makes a difference…you may be on a path of burnout.

What is burnout like for you, personally, right now as you go about your daily life in work or school? Before reading on, invest a few moments with pen and paper (or computer) answering this question,

“What does burnout look, sound and feel like for you right now?”

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines burnout as:

  1. the cessation of operation usually of a jet or rocket engine; also : the point at which burnout occurs
  2. exhaustion of physical or emotional strength or motivation usually as a result of prolonged stress or frustration

Perhaps a lack of necessary “fuel” has brought your engines to a stop. Do even know what fuels you? Do you know how to get refueled? Maybe you’re just tired and need a rest. Or stressed and frustrated and need a break.  Do you know how to rest? Have you made that break a priority?

I would suggest that burnout can have at least one more source.  When I was a young driver, my friends and I would test a car’s acceleration (and our manhood) by “burning out” our tires. (Rather comical now, considering I was driving an Olds Omega 4-cylinder.)  Thing is, every time we burned rubber we reduced the tire tread quickly and, therefore, the traction and lifetime of the tire.

Temporary thrills, “highs” and mountaintop experiences are not sustainable. Rely on them too much in your work or life and they increase your need for external inspiration and decrease internal motivation.  Burn too much “rubber” too frequently and you lose traction on your work, your emotions and more. Too many burns too many times and you reduce the lifetime of value you might otherwise give to that which you serve, whether it is your work, or family, or community, or self.

  • When you are doing one thing (e.g. in a job) but would like to be doing something else — this leads to burnout.
  • Maybe you are really good at what you do but don’t really enjoy it.
  • What if you are passionate about what you are doing but aren’t very good at it?

If you know me or read this blog, you recognize how reluctant I am to give advice. With that in mind, the best advice I can give you in any of these circumstances is “Quit. Find a way to start something new.”  You have to stop doing what you don’t like, or if you’re ineffective, if you want to start doing something else that truly brings you alive.

Develop healthy eating, exercising and sleeping habits. I know you’ve heard it, but are you doing it? Learn how to manage stress; take yoga, pottery, a Bible study or meditation class if you must. Schedule your priorities instead of prioritizing your schedule. Set boundaries, “let your yes be yes and your no be no.” Put away the cell phones, laptops and tablets, the TVs…have a daily getaway from technology.  Develop daily rituals that bring you moments of peace. Try something new, or something “old” with a beginner’s mentality.

Find someone or a cause to serve. I started volunteering to speak at the local women’s correctional center once a month more than ten years ago. This is perhaps my favorite thing to do. I love it (I think they love me, too.) and look forward to returning each month.  Serve someone; you’ll be amaze at the revival you experience.

How specialized are you in your work? Research indicates general practitioners have the highest proportion of burnout cases.  The more closely you identify your niche, your role, your special purpose or calling in life, the less likely you are to experience burnout. Find something you enjoy and pursue mastery in that area or with that skill. Commit to 90 days of coaching with me and I promise you the opportunity to articulate your Purpose in life as readily as you do your name, address and phone number.

New York Times Bestselling Author John Maxwell speaks to the cause of burnout by directly addressing its cure.  Maxwell, and many of my colleagues in career, life and business coaching will suggest you find one thing you do well, and thoroughly enjoy doing, and do it. What are you passionate about? What are you good at? Marry those two things and act on them. Stay at it. Make it your vocation or make it your avocation. Work at it or do it after work.

This blog, The Intersection of Purpose and Now could be read as a primer on avoiding and overcoming burnout as well. May I seek to remain humble and still suggest that you read through the archive of this blog to help you address burnout and rediscover your passion? You can do anything, but you cannot do everything. Discover your vital few priorities. Understand the Myth of Balance. Know the difference between your Must Do and Should Do activities. Understand how “Overcommitted is an oxymoron.” Rediscover your passion.  Why not take a magic carpet ride?  Learn how to fix your broken want-to.

I also address the subject of burnout head-on in my popular workshop Why This Work: Renewing Your Passion for Your Work and Life. (Contact me directly for more information or to schedule an event.)  Look for a few nuggets from this workshop in coming days…

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Bucket List or Dream Inventory?

Posted on May 8, 2013 by pdncoach

There is a big qualitative difference between a “bucket list” and the Dream Inventory that I ask my clients to produce.

A bucket list typically focuses on things you want to do and places you want to go before you die. Often, the list is relatively self-centered.

The Dream Inventory includes everything you want to do, want to have, want to become today and throughout your life. It involves family, friends, your “whole person”, character and often legacy. The Dream Inventory most often leads one to a much deeper sense of Purpose, personal vision and service to others – adventure, too – while also sorting out the mundane priorities of everyday life.

A Dream Inventory may well include a bucket list, but can be so much more.

Image credit: louisdavilla / 123RF Stock Photo

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Change Perspective to Change Performance

Posted on February 7, 2013 by pdncoach

What are you trying to change?

Nearly everyone is looking to change something: business results, the quality of a relationship, physical health, job satisfaction, the color of your living room walls… I like to call these desired changes Performance, and a change in Performance requires a change in Perspective.

Any change must begin with a change in perspective. One must see things in a new way to recognize new possibilities for performance — for necessary action. One will not perform in the new ways necessary to produce new results without new perspective.

A change in perspective requires a fresh look at the assumptions you make about yourself, your current circumstances, subject or object of focus, the actions you are taking, or your results. What results are you getting now? What are you doing to produce these results? What assumptions are you making that drive these actions?

Shift Perspective to Shift Performance
Specifically, what new results do you want? What new assumptions might you need to “try on”? How might these new assumptions drive new, necessary behaviors? What behaviors might be needed for you to get those new results?

Just as behaviors repeated often become Habits, our assumptions, over time, become Habits, too; we call these habitual assumptions Attitudes. It’s not easy to change a behavioral habit, so it’s no easier to change a habit of thought — to change an attitude. It may even take a greater discipline and Practice to replace an old habit with a new one than it does to develop a habit in the first place.

Let’s face it: you are getting your current results because you are in the Habit of getting those results. Your Performance won’t change without Practicing new Habits, and new habits require a disciplined change in Perspective.

Chances are, you cannot do it alone.

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