Leadership and You


Formal leadership is the outgrowth of your ability to master the art of self leadership; that is, “the ability to establish a specific direction for your own life, and to proceed in that direction with the self-confidence that comes only to one who knows where he or she is going.”

In order to determine where you want to go, first establish where you are now. Everyone has untapped potential to excel. Few will ever understand the process or feel the thrill of becoming the best they can be. Becoming the “best you can be” is why you are engaged in The Intersection of Purpose & Now; it’s why people engage the services of a coach. If it is what you want then it is what I want for you and from you, just as it is for all of my clients.

Before Formal Leadership you must have Self Leadership. Before Self Leadership you must have Self Image. Before healthy Self Image you must have Self Love. To experience Self Love you must learn to Love Others. To truly Love Others you must know the Love of God. If the foundation is strong, the rest will be supported.

Every life has a reason. Leadership is an active process of knowing what you want out of life, and what you are going to give with your life. Leadership is first being, and then doing. Leaders develop a singleness of purpose; they find purpose in life and give purpose to life. Leaders know who they are, where they are going, and how they will get there. How you lead your life not only determines your future, it also determines the future of those around you.

The leaders I serve are committed to improving the quality of life for themselves and for the world around them through authentic self-expression that adds value through their relationships with, and service to, God, family, their businesses and customers, friends, neighborhoods, church, communities, civic and social groups, governments and even society as a whole…

The purpose of this process is to create focus. The truly successful leader understands the difference between who he or she is, and who he or she wants to be. As you continue your journey toward the person you want to be, continue to ask yourself the following questions:

  • Where am I today?
  • Where do I want to be a year from today? In five years? In ten years?
  • What is important?
  • If I realize my goals, what will be my rewards?
  • What are the consequences if I fail?
  • What is standing in my way?
  • What are the possible solutions for those obstacles?
  • What specific action steps do I need to take to accomplish my goals?

Whether you follow the path to mediocrity or personal success is a matter of your own free choice. Courage becomes a reflection of a growing desire to become the kind of person you want to and will become, to have the kind of life you deserve, and to be the successful leader you were meant to be.

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Want to Achieve More of Your Goals More Often?

How do you feel when you fail to achieve a goal?

Now don’t keep reading quite yet. Seriously take time to consider your answer to this question. Think of a specific time in which you fell short of your goal. [If your first thought is that you achieve all of your goals, then I suggest you start setting tougher goals for yourself.]










Now that you have considered the question of how you feel when you fail, consider this: If you don’t write down your goals, this question won’t be as powerful for you. People who write out their goals and plans to achieve them typically achieve more and attempt more difficult challenges. If people who write out goal plans stretch themselves more, they may fail more often because of the potential increase in difficulty of their goals – or less often because they actually plan to succeed.

One thing is for sure, people who write down their specific, measurable, time-bound goals will know – for sure – when they have succeeded or failed. Most other people are mistaking success for fortunate circumstances and that “uncomfortable feeling” they experience as failure. Failure is not so debilitating for the person with specific written goals; they know what to correct in a second effort.

Goal setting is the means by which you can define your ideal future, motivate yourself to achieve that future, identify possible distractions and potential road-blocks so that you can develop solutions to problems before they occur.

Goal-setting begins with your answers to the question, “What do I want?” You can never have too many answers to this question. What do you want to do? What do you want to have? What do you want to become?

You CAN have too many goals. So your next step is, considering all that you want, “What is most important to me now?” This question should be answered in the context of your values (again, purpose-driven, goal-directed people have their values written down). People of faith will seek to discern what is most important to God in defining their goals.

Why is this your goal? What would it mean to you, in deeply personal terms, if you achieved your goal? What would it mean if you did NOT achieve your goal? Your answers to these questions define your motivation to achieve the goal.

What might keep you from achieving your goal? What obstacles might get in your way? If the goal is much of a goal at all, there will be obstacles and several of them. If you can’t think of anything that might prevent success, then consider why you haven’t already achieved the goal.

For each of these roadblocks, consider possible solutions. These solutions become the object of your action steps. Top goal achievers don’t practice the common approach to goal-planning; that is, set your goal and consider your action steps. Top achievers also consider the “Why” of their goals and the obstacles that they must overcome to be successful.

This is the basic script for achieving more of your goals more often. We teach this process to our coaching clients and they typically practice the process until it becomes habit – their “second nature” approach to achieving goals, making decisions and solving problems. This basic process is a big part of why our clients say:

“I am more focused now than I have ever been in my life;
and I am focused on Purpose.”


Give us a call at 217.362.0500 or email askthecoach@pdncoach.com if you are interested in learning more about the power of coaching and the habit of
Goal-Achieving. We’ll merely get acquainted – we don’t charge for making friends!

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Purpose – Avenue Q, The Musical


Let’s just have some fun today. Believe it or not, The Intersection of Purpose & Now has a theme song (well, maybe not, but we’re having fun today remember) and it’s a Broadway hit! From “Avenue Q The Musical” and the Original Broadway cast,
Purpose is sung by John Tartaglia, who voices Princeton.


Here are the lyrics:

Purpose,
It’s that little flame

That lights a fire under your ass.
Purpose,
It keeps you going strong
Like a car with a full tank of gas.
Everyone else has a purpose
So what’s mine?

Oh, look! Here’s a penny!
It’s from the year I was born!
IT’S A SIGN!

BA-BA-BA-BA
DOO-DOO-DOO-DOO-DOO
I don’t know how I know,
But I’m gonna find my purpose.
I don’t know where I’m gonna look,
But I’m gonna find my purpose.
Gotta find out,
Don’t wanna wait
Got to make sure that my life will be great!
Gotta find my purpose
Before it’s too late.

I’m gonna find my purpose

I’m gonna find my purpose
Could be far, Could be near
Could take a week,
A month, a year
At a job, or smoking grass
Maybe at a pottery class!
Could it be?
Yes it could!
Something’s coming,
Something good!
I’m gonna find my purpose
I’m gonna find my purpose
I’m gonna find it.
What will it be? Where will it be?
My purpose in life is a MYSTERY
Gotta find my purpose
Gotta find me.

I’m gonna find my purpose!
Purpose Purpose PURPOSE!
Yeah, yeah!
I GOTTA FIND ME.

You’ll find more songs from Avenue Q at http://tinyurl.com/ohalow


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