Are you are seeking a remarkable life, rather than mere fame or fortune? Do you want to be a valuable influence in the lives of others? Do you want to re-connect your thoughts and actions with your deepest values and purpose, and engender the same in others? Have you the courage to take action now on the things most important to you? What if you could achieve what may seem just beyond your reach?
If you are a regular follower of The Intersection of Purpose & Now, the questions above are what bring you here. If you are new, then these may or may not be questions that keep you reading or will possibly bring you back again.
One thing is for sure: Time will tell. Time, and how we use it, tells us a great deal. How can you take action NOW, with courage or not, if you don’t know what you value most right now? Your relationship to time, and the choices you make with your time, says much about you. I tend to believe that the simplest way to measure one’s priorities is to look at two things: your checkbook and your calendar.
If you allowed someone to follow you for a week to do a “Time Use Audit”, how much would you appreciate the results?
No matter what brings my clients to make the decision to hire me as their coach, three commitment factors are always in play.
- Financial Cost – No matter “how much”, it’s always more than we want to spend.
- Time Cost – No matter “how much”, it’s always more than we want to spend.
- Change Cost – Ah, if you’re not willing to “spend” the right amount here, nothing else matters! Commitment to change is really what drives the other two, isn’t it. If I am not committed to change, then it really doesn’t matter how much I invest or value in money and time.
So when we engage – coach and person-being-coached – the subject of time is always in play. Some people call this “time management”. Of course, that is ridiculous, you cannot manage time. Each of us has 24 hours in a day; it is a resource that doesn’t change so it is not something you can manage. What you can manage is how you choose to use your time. It’s really a matter of keeping promises. Do you keep the promises you make about time? (Most people keep their promises to others better than they do to themselves – think “procrastination”). Making better choices, keeping promises, is always a product of effective coaching:
- because we recognize far more possibilities than we did before
- and because we come to be more profoundly focused on what is truly important – what we value most.
This whole matter of “what will I do now” is at the heart of goal achievement, of living a goal-directed, On-Purpose life, of receiving value from our endeavors, of serving value in the lives of others – of living a remarkable life and living at The Intersection of Purpose & Now. Our choices with time define our values (relative worth, merit, or importance; any object or quality desirable as a means or as an end in itself). Of course, our values define our behavior, which lead us to produce the results we get and the character others see in us. Time does tell.
So if you ever wonder, “What is this coaching thing all about?”, consider your time audit and the feelings you would have if you actually did audit your time for a week or two. Consider how much money you spend on entertainment in one year, then compare that number to the amount you invest in your local church or in your own personal and professional development.
There are infinite possible outcomes from a coaching relationship and you get to decide what those are. Ultimately, there is one truth that separates us all into two groups:
- Unsuccessul people prioritize their schedules.
- Successful people schedule their priorities.
Consider hiring a coach to not only explore and refine your priorities, but to begin to focus and take action toward living a remarkable life like you have never done before. Perhaps you’ll join me at The Intersection of Purpose & Now.