What Quality or Virtue Do You Most Want to Develop This Year?

How will you grow and develop yourself this year? What quality or characteristic of personal leadership development will you focus on? 

I suggest you begin with the fertile ground of Virtue. As for me, I begin with Courage.  Courage begins things: it is a precursor for Faith, Love, Change, Persistence, Authenticity, Trust, Service and every other value.

“Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.” — C.S. Lewis

In other words, one is virtuous only when virtue has a cost – a price we are fearful to pay. In order to address my fears virtuously, I must seek courage daily. To help me, my core value and daily affirmation is:

I have the Courage to take action on the things that are most important to me now.

Without courage I do not get started on what is important; I do not take right action; I live in fear of the consequences of virtue. Every day I face decisions that begin, interrupt or sustain my courage-life pattern. Courage is my cupid’s arrow for everything I really want to have, to do, to create, or to become, no matter how mundane or how wonderful the rewards. So in 2010, I must continue to develop and sustain my courage. What about you? What quality or virtue do you most want to develop this year?

Please, feel free to offer your response in the comments section to this blog. As an additional step, just ask and I will be glad to serve as your accountability partner.

Have a virtuous remainder of the year.

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Yo-Yos and Leadership Are Not The Same (Part 3 in a Series)

What makes training valuable to both the individual learner and the organization in which the learner performs?

Consider the boy who brings his first yo-yo home from school.  You show him a few tricks that you learned as a child. With no priming on your part, no post training activities planned to insure learning, and no change in the environment from the training setting, the boy steadily increases his proficiency, builds on his training and continues to show improvement.
Now suppose the boy forgets about the yo-yo in the next year or two. Could he pick it up again after decades of inattention and resume yo-yoing with no loss of skill?  Most likely, or at least he would likely regain lost skill quickly since he developed it as a boy. In fact, he may even be able to show a leap in proficiency due to physical, mental, and emotional development that is unrelated to training directly to the task. 
Why is this so?

[NOTE: this is the third article in a series that ran on March 29 and March 30, entitled “Why is Training Such a Lousy Investment”, parts 1 and 2.]

I know at least two reasons a person of any age can learn a new skill quickly and retain that skill even through years of non-use.  First, the skill is learned quickly due to desire. The boy wants to yo-yo so he practices, over and over again. This leads to the second reason – repetition. You don’t pick up a yo-yo one time and become a master. A breakthrough to mastery requires desire, repetitive use and application.

If only developing the habits of effective leadership were as simple as learning to yo-yo!
The same rules still apply. DESIRE to learn or change or “become a more effective leader” is the necessary precursor to doing so. Desire is always self-motivated but can be stimulated by an external requirement or need, such as belonging, survival, recognition or fulfillment. Unfortunately, leadership classes are often full of “prisoners”, people “sent” to training by a higher authority, or “sophisticates”, people who believe they already know more than anyone could teach them. Unless the participant  is on his or her own quest for meaning, little will change.

REPETITION is necessary with leadership, too. One cannot learn about active listening skills one day and demonstrate mastery of the skill the next. A person has to want to (desire) improve active listening skills to master listening. Mastery, even simple proficiency takes practice, over and over, situation to situation, context to context.

You must experience being the kind of leader you want to be over and over until you are that leader and others say so.

WIIFM?
So much training is focused mainly on skills and knowledge, with little sophisticated attention to attitudes, habits and goals. Most trainers consider the WIIFM factor (What’s in it for me?) of learners, but few really incorporate it into learning design. Attitudes, habits and goals put the hands and feet on desire and repetition, and therefore mastery.  

Skills and knowledge create potential for improvement, but attitudes, habits and goals will make or break successful transition, transformation and mastery. These are the things that shape desire. 

Attitudes are habits of thinking. We develop them over a lifetime, and they can be extremely difficult to change, even when we have the desire. We have to want to change an attitude to make the change – we have to have the right attitude about our attitudes. And we have to practice new attitudes repeatedly for them to supersede bad habits and ones that have outlived their utility.  Attitudes either take us closer to our goals or further away – there are no neutral attitudes.

So my attitude about learning to yo-yo may be pretty black-and-white: I do or I don’t practice and repeat, which determines whether I will or I won’t learn to yo-yo (and to what level of proficiency). But with a habit that affects how I lead in my organization or family – that is so much more personal, complicated, sensitive, and requires a great deal more courage, among other things.

One of those other things is the depth of my desire for change. Another is repetition of the new habit over time.
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A Leader’s Prayer

Powerful, truly God-inspired and something you will want to keep, from my good friend, coach Julie Poland.  Julie is the author of the game-changing book on leadership and organizational development, Changing Results by Changing Behavior: The Process Every Leader Needs to Know to Create Sustainable Improvement.

Pray The Leader’s Prayer again and again that it may be your Truth and Guiding Light.  A prayer such as this takes you to The Intersection of Purpose and Now.

Let me stand
Supported firmly by the foundation of my values
And in the greater purpose that calls me forth
Let me stand for the uncompromising truth
That compels me to stretch beyond
My prior expectations for myself and my contribution

Let me see
The distant hills that are my destination, our destination
The lessons of the tall old pines that grow fruitful even after fire
Let me see the effect of the river that, over time,
Can cut and mold a landscape
Even while flowing softly and serenely through a verdant valley.

Let me speak
In words that cascade like diamonds
Onto someone’s shoulders, enriching them
Let me speak in tones that wrap
Like fur, warming and soothing
On skin that has been scarred and roughened by conflict.

Let me serve
With head bowed in humility
Because I know my gifts are truly not my own
Let me serve especially in times
When I am not yet ready
And in places that call for skills I have yet to discover.

Let me shake hands
With brothers and sisters everywhere
Knowing that we share our humanity if not our opinions
Let me shake hands
And look the other directly in the eye
And see the dignity and the noble intent within them.

Let me celebrate
The abundance that is already before me
That I did not create, but that has been given to me
Let me celebrate
The glimmers that light the next steps on the path
And show me that the impossible just might not be so.

Let me step out, step up
And shake the clots of mud off of my shoes
To respond to the call of the world
Let me step out, step up
And in my own way, by whatever means I can
To make a mark, a signpost for the ones who come after me.

SPECIAL NOTE: I chose the Bonsai tree as art for this post for a special reason I hope you might recognize on your own. Here’s a bit more explanation from http://www.bonsaisite.com/

“In Japanese, bonsai can be literally translated as ‘tray planting’ but since originating in Asia, so many centuries ago – it has developed into a whole new form. To begin with, the tree and the pot form a single harmonious unit where the shape, texture and colour of one, compliments the other. Then the tree must be shaped. It is not enough just to plant a tree in a pot and allow nature to take its course – the result would look nothing like a tree and would look very short-lived. Every branch and twig of a bonsai is shaped or eliminated until the chosen image is achieved. From then on, the image is maintained and improved by a constant regime of pruning and trimming.

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